I've always been on the 'against' side. And thankfully nothing had happened so far to make me move to the 'pro' side until yesterday.
I've always believed in telling the parent about how their kid was behaving and how they should talk to their child about it. Same way I expected others to do the same. But yesterday, at Betu's daycare something happened that I broke this rule of mine and went ahead to scold the child right in front of his mother. The other kid pushed Betu in the splash pool right in front of us even when his mother was telling him not to continuously. If I had not grabbed Betu by his hand on time, he would have totally been in the water but thankfully he went down inlt till his knees. I took BetU out of the pool and bent down to the other kids level and on the top of my voice shouted at him.
Me: why did you do that?
Kid: *no answer*
Me: How many times did your Mumma tell you not to do that?
Kid: *no answer*
Me: How many times?
*the kid tried to look away*
Me: look into my eyes and talk when I am speaking with you.
Kid: 10 times
Me: Then why are you not listening to her?
Me: If I push you in the pool would you like it?
Me: so he (referring to Betu) wouldn't like it too. Nobody would like it. So you will not do it again.
Me: Now go to your Mumma.
The kid was slightly shaken up after this and I could see my scolding did have some effect him. He has become totally immune to his mother's scolding.
This kid has the habit of troubling other kids and laughs when he sees them in discomfort or not liking what he does. He is just a bit too bratty and I know there are kids who are like that and its normal. But at times it gets too much and today was the day when I felt I had to intervene.
But I know for sure that if Anirudh had done something like that I would have done exactly what I did with the kid myself. There would not have been any need for other parent to scold my child.
I have also seen other parents who react badly to other parents pulling up their kids even when they know that their child has done something wrong and take their side. I find that very wrong. I agree no one would like their child being pulled up but then we have to see the reason and how the other parent is handling it.
I still stand by my rule as I had mentioned above and will not say anything to other's kids directly minus such situations.
Now you tell me what are your views on the same. What would you do and what you won't do? How would you do and how you won't? Any real life examples would be great too.
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