tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post8335120395705463934..comments2024-03-04T09:28:15.253+05:30Comments on Do I write?: How protective can one be?~nmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16483363042572158612noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-78977939020231365912007-08-26T19:35:00.000+05:302007-08-26T19:35:00.000+05:30I guess it is a late response. But still: I like M...I guess it is a late response. But still: I like Manasi’s response a lot. <BR/>~NM, Manasi has answered your why. I think here the question is more about what than why. <BR/>Yes, a lot needs to be done. One of these things is surely that we give a thought to such things ourselves and discuss it among us. And your post was surely a very good thing in this direction. <BR/>So, an escort cannot help a child being abused by its own father. In a large number cases of child abuse (a number times unknown) the culprits are family members, relatives, friends and people whom you least expect. That makes our role as a parent all the more important, difficult as well, to raise our child in a manner that they are self confident. And of course as all of us know how important it is talk to them and listen to them. Every day!<BR/><BR/>The reason why I wrote my last comment was to pinpoint that we should not get OVERprotective. I am amazed at the amount of confidence our parents showed in us. Things were no differemt then, I am quite sure.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509732589537039753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-75749122464000477492007-08-07T01:40:00.000+05:302007-08-07T01:40:00.000+05:30its absolutely disgusting... i still shiver when i...its absolutely disgusting... i still shiver when i think about nithari and it wasnt the first instance i heard of this sort. bombay developing suburbs are full of stories like these... and trust me, no one is safe. <BR/><BR/>coming back to ur article, the problem is that 0.0001% of our urban population is possibly mentally sick and they need help but their sickness is overlooked or sweeped under the carpet because such people will plead forgiveness under the garb of having a daughter of a marriageable age or some equally pitiable reason.<BR/><BR/>personally if such a thing ever happens to me again, i will have the nerve to kill that guy. having said that, i know thats not the right solution. but trust me, we are changing the social tide against such sickos with each article that gets printed in the media... these people need to feel fearful of the social isolation that will result from their actions. <BR/><BR/>in retrospect, i only wish we all didn't isolate the abused child but isolated the abuser instead.MGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02921587956839376240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-86775123404458800892007-07-27T19:17:00.000+05:302007-07-27T19:17:00.000+05:30This issue is of grave concern. The Times of India...This issue is of grave concern. The Times of India has the following discussion page on the matter. <BR/><BR/>Do you think schools should put escorts on every school bus, including hired ones?<BR/><BR/>http://o3.indiatimes.com/mytimes/archive/2007/07/27/4753346.aspxBhuwanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767428357226109716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-38502444892616424842007-07-26T10:39:00.000+05:302007-07-26T10:39:00.000+05:30Swati : A dliemma for every parents I guess. And I...Swati : A dliemma for every parents I guess. And I think each thing will have a solution in its own way which we will learn as time goes by. I hope so.<BR/><BR/>Bhuwan : How can you teach children to stand up against such atrocities at the tender age of 5?<BR/><BR/>PG : I guess you are right. These things have been happening from a long time but because of media we get to hear about incidents like these more often. But still my question remains..WHY? WHY? WHY?~nmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483363042572158612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-61834568870291844932007-07-25T21:05:00.000+05:302007-07-25T21:05:00.000+05:30These cruelties have unfortunately been happening ...These cruelties have unfortunately been happening since a long long time. Only we are now more open minded and do not hide the misdeed or even worse condemn the child or any victim instead of the evildoer. And the media of mass communication play an important role in this. As we get to know every small incidence through them. <BR/>This is also confirmed by German statistics, which I believe, would very well apply to India or any other part of the world. <BR/><BR/>And humas are the only ones who can have such corrupt minds, animals are too pure for that. Unless, like in some instances, mistreated by us again.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509732589537039753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-38953445743818532692007-07-25T20:01:00.000+05:302007-07-25T20:01:00.000+05:30This piece of news made my blood boil. How come th...This piece of news made my blood boil. How come those folks were allowed to go back to their work?was there no action taken?As much as we have to empower the child and raise him to be independent such news really scare the wits out of me. The mere thought that people are capable of thinking and acting in such a perverted way sickens me and makes me all the more scared about letting our kids out into such a world. It's not good to be over protective yes but then in the current situation its important you empower the child about the dangers out there too.Fuzzylogichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00393173920058729914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-2742110854832108972007-07-25T18:35:00.000+05:302007-07-25T18:35:00.000+05:30I think protectiveness should come with a caution ...I think protectiveness should come with a caution that kids would need to stand up to society even at very young age, while going to school, college, public places etc.<BR/><BR/>One of my relatives was too protective about their kids and by the time his son reached college he could barely catch a bus. Such a person is vulnerable to abuse and cheating.<BR/><BR/>I think the most I learned is by observing my parents, their precautions and interactions with both strangers and friends.Bhuwanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767428357226109716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994682204786093434.post-3276009839798882212007-07-25T17:18:00.000+05:302007-07-25T17:18:00.000+05:30Yes , we should not be over protective , coz if we...Yes , we should not be over protective , coz if we do we will hamper their personality.They will not develop confidence and will never be independent. And will never be able to decide right and wrong will may a;so lead them to fall prey someday. <BR/><BR/>Thats the very reason I worry abt <A HREF="http://recollectthescattered.blogspot.com/2007/07/how-do-we-protect-our-kids.html" REL="nofollow">HOW DO WE PROTECT OUR KIDS</A> ..without overdoing.Swatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14263330596396584816noreply@blogger.com